PS: I'm not perfect
Here I am posting content on my blog about life. Teaching others how to think, how to behave, how to be happy. I'm sharing my point of view, my experiences and things I have learned along the way. One could easily assume that I always have my s#%t together and I am some sort of Zen master.
I want to clear things up and share something personal with you today. I’m not perfect, not at all. I’ve done many things I’m not proud of. I have my flaws and lessons to learn. I have my ups and downs just like everyone else. I’m not always so calm and composed. I still lose my s#%t, swear, and get stressed or anxious at times. I have treated people with less respect than they deserve.
I don’t ever want to suggest that I am perfect or all-knowing. I don’t want to convince you that I am some sort of enlightened being or guru. I want you to see I am only human and that's okay. I have given up on trying to perfect; no one is. I would much rather be an example that makes people feel okay about themselves, okay with learning. I’d rather show my scars, my freckles and insecurities, share the lessons I've learned along the way if it might help.
We are all human. We are all here learning as we go.
It's through our tough times and emotional responses that we learn.
Over time, I have slowly adopted more of a student mentality. Now, every time I throw a tantrum, every time I resist reality, every time I mess up, I catch myself. I see this as an opportunity for growth. I listen to what others say about me and I observe my emotional responses. I reflect on the situation and reconsider if I was seeing things clearly. It's a powerful practice.
But at the end of the day, we are only human. We are all here learning together, learning from one another. You don't need to perfect. You just need to be okay with things being the way they are, your flaws included. Use them for growth rather than trying to cover them up. Someday, someone close to you or even a stranger will be very grateful that you did. Your example helped them to be okay with themselves; okay with life.
Rather than not caring what others think about you, I encourage you to care about how your behaviour is making others feel about themselves and about life. Are you portraying an unrealistic image of perfection? Or are you showing others it's okay to make mistakes and learn from them? Asking myself this question recently gave me tremendous insight. I hope it can do the same for you.